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Monday, April 02, 2007

Resentment Against Suffering

The suffering itself is not so bad, it's the resentment against suffering that is the real pain.

-Alan Ginsberg

James: Today I'm dealing with the resentment against suffering. Sorry it's been awhile since I last posted. It's been a rough week with my illness. Any words of comfort and support would be greatly appreciated.

~Peace to all beings~

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Lena said...

Your blog is one of the very few that really touches me and that I actually subscribe to. I am so sorry to hear that you are suffering. I wish you well and send you positive thoughts from the other side of the world.

peacelily said...

Hope you are feeling better soon, James. I love to read your blog!

trinitystar said...

Suffering we all seem to do ... and it is all pain ... may it be of physical or mental.
I do hope that you shall feel better soon. A positive thought gently coming your way on a breeze.
hugs for you.
Happy Easter!

MethoDeist said...

I have a bowel disease that flares up every once in a while and when it does I tend to get angry about the flare up and angry about having the disease.

The disease is quite painful and interupts my daily life when the flare ups occur. I used to get quite angry (and still do) but by practicing Dharma I have come to learn that I must accept that I have the disease. Then from there I try to be mindful and see the disease as a vehicle for appreciating life just as a rainy day can be depressing until you realize that the water it brings is essential to life.

I break down suffering (or difficulty) in life between that which is self-imposed and that which is natural. Most diseases are natural and not of our own making so they are not self-imposed and will cause suffering. However, how we deal with the disease can bring even more suffering down on ourselves and lead to self-imposed suffering.

Regardless, the Eight-Fold Path allows us to transcend suffering in general. I never realized it before but my anger and craving not to have the disease actually brought about more pain and suffering on myself. My disease can lead to great pain and suffering which I will have to deal with regardless but by being mindful I can overcome my anger and non-acceptance and then focus on dealing with the flare-up at hand which will lead to the end of the pain and suffering from it for that moment.

Another thing that has greatly helped me is a yoga style breathing exercise that brings about relaxation. I breath in for through my nose for 8 seconds, then hold the breath for 6 seconds and then breath out through my mouth slowly for 8 seconds then repeat for as long as needed. The tongue is applied to the roof of the mouth and the breath moves around it.

I also use this method when I start the meditate as it helps to calm my mind.

So, while I can't state that I know exactly what you are going through I do understand the problem of flare ups and the anger at the disease that can accompany them.


Greenwoman said...

I had this sense that your bad day might have turned into more than one...My thoughts are with you...

It's snowing softly here today...big fluffy flakes. Very pretty. I hope you'll get a little time with the weather and the land today. The energy of the earth tends to be such a healing and equalizing. It may not make today alot better, but I find that by the next day, the earth's beautiful magnetism has raised my spirits a little.

Feel free to send me silly notes or a rant if you like...*soft smiles*

Joe said...

Makes me think of Nietzsche's whole critique of ressentiment.

I think it would help to use a term besides suffering when referring to resentment though. I see/hear the word "difficulties" and "problems" used in the place of what you call "suffering" in this context. In this sense, we have all kinds of difficulties, but we suffer because we believe we shouldn't have difficulties.

I recall a story along these lines where the Buddha is approached by a farmer, who has all kinds of problems (his crops, his wife, his kids) and hopes that the Buddha's teachings will help him with them. The Buddha tells him frankly that his teachings won't solve his problems. What they will solve is the problem of wanting to be free of problems.

Liberation in this life isn't about finding an end to the difficulties of life, but ending what really makes them so difficult for us to face. Happiness is found in being content with uncontentment.

renée said...

I hope you can feel our good thoughts and friendship for you (and your wife who must be a wonderful and understanding person)and our wish that you will feel better very soon! And always be this blog a place of freedom for you!
hugs for you!

david said...

this too shall pass, at the essence each of us is un-harmable, immutable and eternal.

breathe and let it all go ....

Mac said...

Hey James, suffering, especially psychological suffering is such an odd thing. Sometimes it seems to come from nowhere, one of the hardest parts about it is not even in feeling the suffering for me I think, it is more in trying to anticipate when it will pass. I guess that is just a prolonging of it though, sitting with the suffering is tough, but not acknowledging it or or adding further worry through living in the future and not the present can make it tougher I think. I don't know if this helps to remember or not but we all experience this suffering, no one is really immune, as much as we all wish to be. Sometimes that realization helps me understand my suffering and sometimes it just makes me angry at that fact, but of course that anger won't change it. Peace and love,

Paul said...

I'm sorry to hear you're suffering resentment, James. My thoughts are with you.

I don't know much about it, but these things probably come in cycles, don't they?

Take care of yourself. Treat yourself well.

... ./|\. ... said...

i love your blog, too. as someone who also suffers from mental illness, i want to tell you that you are not alone. and here's a cyberhug if wanted...


Johnny Newt said...

Hello James, so good to speak to you again.
you are always one of my first stops here in the cyber realm. I remember reading some ones comment once that Buddhists are dissolusioned
cult members who ascribe to the teachings of a mentally ill hermit who wandered about with a sandle on his head. i guess my only question is who is it that decided what real insanity is ?
A prayer for your blessing......Though I be suffering and weak, and all my youthful spring be gone, yet have I come leaning upon my staff, and clambered up the mountain peak. My cloak thrown off, my little bowl o'erturned, so sit I here upon the rock. And in my spirit sweeps the breath of liberty ! 'Tis won, 'tis won, my suffering only an illusion ! The Buddha's will is done.

James Ure said...

Thank-you everyone for your kind reminders and words of support and hugs. Things are improving. Impermanence is such a gift!!

James Ure said...

Lena and Peace Lilly:

Thank-you so much for visiting and I'm very happy that you enjoy this blog. I appreciate the comments--keep 'em coming!!

Susanne said...

I have no wisdom to impart - know only that your blog reaches to me here in Europe - I too suffer from resentment, resent the suffering, resent the cause of suffering, .... (unfortunately, most times, all of the above)

Anyhow! Reading your blog is always an inspiration, thank you for that, and may you be well,


dragonflyfilly said...

come over and see me...i sometimes forget to remind myself "this too shall pass", when i am suffering, but when i remember, i am always surprised at the result.

love and Light to you my dear friend,
and indeed, Nameste!

Tex69 said...

Impermanence of the suffering and of your resentment. "All things shall pass."

They call him James Ure said...


Awww you're words mean a lot. I'm glad that I reach your heart over in Europe. That inspires me to keep going. Thanks.


I'm sorry that I haven't been over in awhile. I'll be right over. Yes, impermanence thanks for the reminder. That teaching is so powerful and liberating.


That's a good way of putting it: That resentment of the suffering is just as impermanent as the suffering itself. When my head was down in the trenches it was hard to see that. Thanks.

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